On Sunday, July 2, 2017, my boyfriend De’Shure and I celebrated our two year anniversary! It has been a wonderful journey with him and I truly enjoy every second of our relationship. We had a blast on our anniversary. We began the day with breakfast at IHOP, then we went to Adventure Air Sports in Kennesaw. Our day ended with dinner at The Cheesecake Factory. We were then going to take a ride on the Sky view Atlanta Ferris Wheel, but unfortunately it began to storm so we postponed it for another time. The day was still fantastic and I had so much fun spending time with him. It was great to have a day dedicated to just the two of us with no distractions.
Quite a few people ask me “How do you guys stay together so long?” or “Wow! You guys are still together?” (uh YEA lol). There really isn’t a secret to having a strong relationship, however there are a few things that you can do to ensure a great relationship. Below are some tips that will help you maintain a healthy relationship with your boyfriend or girlfriend. The following tips has helped De’Shure and I, and hopefully they can help you out as well.
1. Trust
In my opinion, trust is the absolute number one most crucial trait that has kept us together. For the longest I had a hard time trusting him. Not because he has ever done anything wrong to break my trust, but because of past relationships and of course my anxiety and insecurities… *sighs*. Not only was I afraid of getting cheated on, but I was afraid that he wouldn’t be able to deal with me nor my anxiety. I thought that he wouldn’t care and would end up leaving me because he didn’t understand why I would act the way I do at times, but fortunately he did. He understood everything. It took him a while to learn how handle things when it got rough, and as frustrating as it may have gotten for him he didn’t give up on me. I had to learn how to trust that not only would he be faithful, but that he would be loyal and wouldn’t abandon me. When I started to trust him, it really has made a huge difference in our relationship!
2. Forgiveness
No matter how upset we might have gotten with each other, we always, always, ALWAYS apologize and ask for forgiveness. We NEVER go to bed angry at each other.
Swallow your pride and apologize even if you believe you weren’t wrong. Be sure that the apologies are always genuine and sincere. Don’t say “I’m sorry you’re upset for no reason” or “Sorry you feel that way” because it is only going to make things escalate. We always forgive each other by the end of the day.
Also, if you claim to forgive them, don’t hold grudges. Forgive and forget because you can’t move further holding something against them.
3. Support
De’Shure and I are very supportive of each other. He is always by my side when I need him most and I’m always by his side as well. We are each other’s #1 fans. If he was in a race, I will be right there along the sidelines cheering him on. It’s a great feeling to receive support and encouragement from someone you adore!
Remember that no relationship is going to be easy all the time. There will be a few challenges, but following the few tips listed above will help you maintain a healthy relationship.
– Alexis Raven 🌸
Alexis Raven 
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